The Grand Master Plan

No matter who you are (or plan to be), whatever you’re doing (or plan to do), however you got there (or plan to get there) – you will always have a grand master plan that guides you. Even the most disorganized, scatter-minded individuals need some type of guideline, plan, or general outline for the current and future direction of their life, no matter how big or small the person may seem.

One of the things we all need to avoid when constructing either a new grand master plan (GMP) or updating an old one – do not allow past experiences and situations to have any influence on your GMP – learn from your mistakes; don’t let them control your future. Create a current assessment of your living situation, and go from there. Once a segment of time has passed (second, minute, hour, day, week, year, etc.), it cannot be changed – nor can any situation that happened in it. Move on, look forward, look up, look out.

Here’s a rough outline of the steps you must go through…

#1        Current Life Assessment/ Evaluation

#2        Construction of Goals, Targets

#3        Establishment of Time Guidelines

#4        Preparation for Launch Period

#5        Initiation of Grand Master Plan 

#1        Your Current Life Assessment – In this step, you’ll ask questions (and answer honestly) such as am I where I want to be? If not, how did I get to the place I am now? Am I living up to my absolute potential? Have I placed myself in a positive or a negative environment? Have I educated myself as much as possible? Am I satisfied with my current career/ job? Is my career/ job a boost to me or a drain of energy? Are my relationships a positive or negative influence?

#2        Construction of Goals & Targets – Once you’ve created a life assessment (which is really a list of honest questions we all should ask ourselves on a repeating basis), you can then move into the construction phase, which is where you create solutions to your problems so to speak. This is the largest, most energy consuming, and sometimes most difficult step of creating a new or updated grand master plan.

If you determined you aren’t where you want to be, this is where you make a path for how to get where you want to be in life, and examine what it will take. If you aren’t living up to your absolute potential, what resources will it take to get you closer to that goal? If you’ve realized you’re in a negative environment, come up with a way to get out of that environment. The same goes with if you determine your relationships are negatively influencing your life – find a way out. I’ve always been an advocate of the “life is too short” theory – yes removing yourself from negative areas you’re entrenched can cause even more turmoil short-term, try to think long-term. Never accept to stay put in areas full of stagnation, negativity, pessimism, indifferent, abusive, or detrimental ways of operation. This goes for your work, your home, your friends, your family, and your associates.

The atmosphere you place yourself in is a large portion of the reflection you cast to others – I learned (and am still learning) this the hard way. It can be hellish to snap loose of bad habits (or people), but once you’re truly ready for change in your life you will find it a lot easier to shake loose turbulence. You should also keep in mind that changes you enact to better yourself and your life aren’t selfish as long as they don’t actively seek to suppress others. Here’s a tidbit to go with that thought – divorcing a cheating or abusive spouse isn’t trying to actively suppress them. Neither is distancing yourself from a friend you know has a drug problem. If you find your current job is excessively stressful, unsatisfying, or causes you undue misery – what’s wrong with seeking a change? Don’t let misplaced loyalties keep you stuck in a place that misuses your talents or doesn’t let you operate at your absolute potential – and that goes for all aspects of your life.

When building your solution list, be realistic, but at the same time dream big. If you need more education, examine what resources are available to you to make it happen. Come up with an area you would like to expand your knowledge, and see what programs are offered in your area. Scan for free educational opportunities or advancement courses at your local community college. Attend any relevant job workshops. Look for leadership courses. Examine your community for opportunities to get involved – volunteering, organizations with agendas that interest you, advocacy for certain causes – there are a plethora of ways to expand your horizon. A bonus with expanding your horizons is you increase the chances of meeting more like-minded individuals to yourself.

As you create your construction goals & targets, be sure to think outside the box. Don’t be afraid to seek out help from your close and trusted resources to tailor goals/ targets just right for you and where you want to be. A note I’d offer is be absolutely sure you know where you want to be, or at least have an idea of the right direction to head, so that you aren’t overstretched reaching for too many targets. 

#3        Establishment of Time Guidelines – Once you’ve got the solutions in place for your master plan – you’ve determined where you want to be, who you want to be surrounded by, what you want to be doing, how to be doing it, etc. – come up with target dates. For example – maybe you’d like to have your degree in the next two years, and a masters within four years of that. Or – I’d like to be actively involved in at least two organizations in the community by the end of the year. A target could also be sometime along the lines of being surrounded by a more positive and supportive group over the next few months to help bolster my newly created grand master plan. Even something as broad as becoming a leader within the workplace within the next five years, and being in high-level management over the next decade; while these might not be concrete or have specific dates, they do offer you some guidance and direction over the course of your future and keep you directed towards continued growth.

An important note to remember is when you are building your timeline is to be sure to be realistic and give yourself ample time to enact your “solutions” to your “problems”. In the same token, don’t give yourself TOO much time – it only allows the opportunity to remain stagnant and procrastinate versus being continuously productive.

#4        Preparation for Launch Period – This is the most varying step in the grand master plan process. For some, this step could take a matter of days. For others, this step could take a couple of years. This is the time that you take to put yourself in position to roll out your new grand master plan. It could be the time you accumulate the necessary capital and support network to go back to school or start a new career. For some, this could be the time you take to pry yourself out of the negative environment you’re in. Sometimes, you can be so entrenched in disarray just the thought of moving towards a better day is a pain – which is why this period is included. You could be surrounded by stealers, liars, cheaters, and druggies and just need time to find a safe way out. You might even just need this period to clear your head, clear your thoughts, or ease your conscience to move forward. For some, this is the step where you will build the confidence to let yourself know you can move from a point A to a point B, and then to points C and D.

I can give a personal example to this effect. Right now, my Weathering The Storm grand master plan is in a holding pattern; awaiting the August 28, 2012 release date. The assessment is in place, I’ve constructed all my goals and targets, and timelines have all been put into place save the book’s release date. This hold pattern doesn’t mean I’m not working until everything is finalized, it just means I’m working behind the scenes to ensure once everything has been put in to place that it has been put in to place correctly, and that when I go to initiate my own new plan, it will implemented successfully. Take this step to double, triple, and quadruple check yourself. Keep track of everything you do in a journal and refer back to it to make sure you’re making the right – the best decisions for your present/ future. Also take this time to get those last bad habits out of the way. Get your last gossip in. Release your last bits of frustration. Get your last smoke in. Go and gorge yourself on food and alcohol one last time if you need to; but know that going forward there is no room for error, slip ups, relapses, or mistakes (especially ones previously committed). Get everything off your chest, and then put your adult outfit on and get ready to construct a better life for yourself. Once you know that you’re ready, initiate your countdown clock…

#5        Initiation of Grand Master Plan – Just like the countdown to a rocket launch, countdown to the initiation of your new grand master plan. This doesn’t mean you need to go out, buy all new clothes, a new car, a new house, and put yourself with all new people to announce your GMP. But you should see immediate change in routines, attitudes, reactions, and habits once your GMP has “gone live”. All of your defeats, poverty, complaining, disappointments, disabilities, failures, and sins of yesterday are gone – not forgotten, but no longer influencing your tomorrow. If your new GMP is one health related, such as weight loss, you will go forward with confidence, endurance, and discipline until your goals and targets are met (see how this applies across the board?).

Give yourself the new you and the new beginning you deserve. It’s only fair and another of the many ways to begin living life unconquered.

L|u

J. Junior II

Shaking Off The Dust

Shaking Off The Dust

As we wrap up the first month in 2012, one common theme I am hearing is the deterioration of our New Year resolutions. For whatever reason, we’ve just gotten off the path we set before we brought in 2012.

Don’t worry, because you don’t need it to be a new year to set goals for yourself. Set realistic goals. Start small, stick to the course, and them grow them. Let one goal transform and develop into others. If you want to eat better, start one thing at a time. We can’t go from a diet of cookies, Pringles, and coke to salads and water overnight. Set a goal to replace things overtime and wean yourself away from whatever is bad. Same thing for removing bad habits; take it a day at a time, wean yourself down first and decrease your dependency on things that are bad for you. Looking to lose weight? Start with a pound or so a week. As your energy begins to increase from the weight loss, up the ante to a pound and a half a week. See what I mean?

One small goal I’d like to set for you is that you develop a monthly word of encouragement/ optimism for yourself. As you move into February, use the word “wonderful”.  

<<< Wonderful >>>

Let my month be wonderful – therefore I’ll need to make everyday of the month wonderful. Not only that, I’m going to make the month wonderful for those around me. I will operate in a way so that not only is February wonderful, so is the rest of 2012. My walk, my talk; I will be wonderful.

I put that paragraph in italics because I want you to use that paragraph when developing your word of the month from March 2012 on. It should fit into that paragraph in place of wonderful (it can also be a phrase in some cases). For example let’s replace wonderful with positive.

Let my month be positive – therefore I’ll need to make everyday of the month positive. Not only that, I’m going to make the month positive for those around me. I will operate in a way so that not only is February positive, so is the rest of 2012. My walk, my talk; I will be positive.

If you want to replace that word with things that are negative, that’s fine too, but you better read the paragraph aloud to you with that negative adjective and know that’s the image you are portraying. For example -          

Let my month be trifling – therefore I’ll need to make everyday of the month trifling. Not only that, I’m going to make the month trifling for those around me. I will operate in a way so that not only is February trifling, so is the rest of 2012. My walk, my talk; I will be trifling.

Get my drift?

As this blog is so titled – a lot of the times we don’t really need that new year’s resolution, we just need to shake off the dust and revive ourselves. Looking at myself, I know that one of my bad habits is trying to compare myself to how I was in days long past, for good or for bad. Unfortunately, the past is just that, the past. What we can tend to overlook in yearning for things to be like they were in the “good ole’ days” is the problems that came along with them; we just don’t happen to recall them.

There is nothing wrong with recapturing your glory, but aim to recapture it in the present year and not mirroring days long gone (or projecting into the future). If it’s a different time, then you are (at least should be) a different person. The circumstances could have been vastly different; your environment could have been vastly different. If you feel like you’ve gotten dusty, then try self-revitalization activities. Chat it up with friends (new and old, reestablish friendships), try new hobbies (volunteering, intramural sports, habitat for humanity, etc.), make sure you are appreciative (of your life, your surroundings, of what you do have, your friends, your family, etc), or dedicating yourself (to a cause, to a project, to your work – just don’t overdo it and strain yourself). Don’t center your focus on just your physical; being consumed with that can detract from what really may need fixed – your mental, your spirit, your intellect, etc.

We all will have eras in life that we get stagnant and start to collect dust. The best advice I can give you is to put yourself back into action and move. Move your feet, move your mind, move yourself into a new environment, and most importantly don’t cower from change or the rain in life – they both are excellent removers of dust and rust.

Until the next time –

J. Junior II
January 23^rd, 2012

Facing All Challenges

It has been far too long since my last post; but I had to take a hiatus in order to complete several other projects going on all at the same time. Now that I'm back in action, the first topic I'd like to address on my return is the idea of challenges (and if you must, challengers).

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chal·lenge (noun) 1. a call or summons to engage in any contest, as of skill, strength, etc.; 2. something that by its nature or character serves as a call to battle, contest, special effort, etc; 3. a call to fight, as a battle, a duel, etc.; 4. a demand to explain, justify, etc.: a challenge to the treasurer to itemize expenditures.; 5. difficulty in a job or undertaking that is stimulating to one engaged in it.

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The emboldened definitions are the ones I want you to focus on, in particular the difficulty in a job or undertaking. Life is a funny thing. Everyday of it is a gift, yet there can be those days that come with a set of challenges that push you to the brink; that sometimes can make just being alive seem like a burden unto itself. The thing is no matter what you are going through, your goal should be to just keep living, keep perservering. Rise up and answer the call - face your challenges, your obstacles, your impediments, and your nay-sayers face on. Don't let anything distract your efforts and that which you are out to accomplish. To help with the process - here is a five step guide I've created to help you overcoming and move forward.


>>> IDENTIFY - Be aware and know what challenges you have faced (past), what challenges you are in the midst of (present), and what challenges could arise in the time ahead (future). You'll have the mindset of being currently aware, the knowledge gained from your past tribulations, and the ability to prepare for your obstacles on the horizon. Sit and ask yourself, what are my challenges? Always be honest. Get out a note pad and write an outline. What are your challenges, and what are the ROOTS of those challenges (the causes/ instigators/ agitators). Be thorough, and be truthful; that is the only way any progress can be made - shatter any denial(s).

>>> RESOLUTION - Come up with a game plan. How will you get out? Who can/ will help you get survive the challenge? What do you need to do to fix the situation? When can the problem be fixed (and be realistic...)? Set goals and timelines. Have a starting point, and a finishing point. Know where you are, and where you want to be so you can monitor your progress. Don't be afraid to "coach" your way out of turmoil. Be methodical and thoughful; not rash and irrational. Sometimes moving out of a predicament can be tough, but be up to the task. Again, be realistic with your goal setting. Garnish all the help and positive influences you can - let your family and friends know your plans (you need support to succeed).


>>> EFFORT - This is an important key before you initate your plans. You must put yourself in a positive mindset, and gather your strength. It's not just enough to come up with a solution to your challenges, you've got to get ready to implement them and that takes work. Rallying your supporters to help you is a vital step in both creating a resolution, but in putting that plan into place as well. Get yourself in the shape you need - mentally, physically, and emotionally. Exercise, it'll help with all three. De-stress by finding hobbies you enjoy and gravitate your mind away from your problems. Stimulate yourself - don't just lay stagnant without anything to do - all that does it leave your mind fixated on your problems.


>>> IMPLEMENTATION - Devising the remedy isn't the end of the story. Just like a New Year's Resolution isn't enough - you have to actually follow through with it and that's where a lot of people slip up. Moreover, you can't just start down the road, quit halfway (or give a mediocre effort) and think you're going to get to the end of the road. You've got to give your solutions your all, and dedicate to becoming better/ overcoming the challenge. Enact your solutions, and stick through them thick and thin. You can't falter, you can't quit, and you can't put up a sorry effort towards your plan. Create a journal and keep track of your progress and to take general notes. Do a check up and evaluation with your support group, have them help you monitor your progress.

>>> PROGRESS MANAGEMENT & SUSTAINING - So you've put in the hard work, you've singled out your challenges and what is causing them. You created a solution/ way out; built your effort up, and then begin putting your plans in place. So now what? Now comes the really hard part - continuing to make progress. Maintaining and sustaining can sometimes be the hardest things you do when you're on the upswing. Too often we let ourselves plateau or "coast" once we've hit a certain point. Don't let yourself get into that phase because before you know it, you can begin going in reverse. Effort and implementation will continue through this stage, you will constantly need to revitalize your effort and re-implement your game plans. The notes of progress should continue, and every so often you should create a new outline, a new starting point, and a new ending point just to stay fresh. If you're having a hard time and feel like you've hit a ceiling at any point - consider it a new challenge and restart the whole process from step one. It won't be the end of the world if you occasionally stumble, just keep notes in your journal/ outline you've created on whatever happened, and come up with ways to avoid it from happening again. We're all only human; to hold yourself to any higher regard and seek out absolute perfection is a mistake in itself.

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Challenges in your life will arise all the time. Just when you think you've conquered one thing, three more will pop up in their place. It's all about managing them, taking them in stride, then constructing your way either out or around. Being a champion or someone who succeeds does not mean you will go without struggles - keep in mind that every set of situations or circumstances can present it's own unique challenges (which is why you should always be careful about what you wish for). Difficult times and situations will arise, so be prepared not only to endure, but to fight your way through/ out. Practice the I.R.I.E.P. steps above. Lean on your support (family, friends, love ones, co-workers, associates), and examine your landscape for resources than can help you (financial, social, psychological, weight loss, etc.). It might not always be easy, but where there is a will, there is a way. Life is too short to do anything but dance while you have the chance.

Until the next time, make it a great week!

J. Junior II
12/8/2011

Get Out!

If you’re in a bad situation, be sure that you get out. If your circumstance or environment is damaging your essence, get out. Drug addictions, hustling, stealing, lying habits – get out. Bad abusive relationships, a wreck of a financial situation, and depression all qualify as well – get yourself out of those conditions and move into a better area of life. Have things that are weighing you down and crushing you? Get out from under them.

Don’t make excuses of why you can’t get out. Don’t ever say you can’t get out either, because you can if you really want to and set your mind to it. You may struggle when you get out, but in the end it will be for the better. Don’t let fear hold you back from getting out, better always comes when you get out of a bad predicament. I don’t care if you have to crawl, roll, flop, or have someone drag you by your feet, just find a path and get on it, and start moving towards the light. The path to getting out can be just as tough as any hellish situation you were in; stick it out. The road to triumph is not for the weak or ill-willed, be sure to have your priorities, your house, and your courage in order before proceeding. Try to not let stubbornness and the dreading of change move into your way either; you need to move forward with open eyes and an open brain.

Sometimes the reason trials and tribulations in life can seem ever-ending is because of laziness. To get away from a “storm”, sometimes you’ll need to pack it up and relocate. There could be sunny skies just a block away, but if you’re too lazy to move out of a bad environment, you could just continue to have unending rains and storms in your life. Not all storms just quickly pass; sometimes you will need to relocate out of them. Placing yourself in a better surrounding isn’t always “running from the problem” if it’s in your (and those around you) best interests.

If you can’t get out, then plan on working it out. As I spoke of last week, use your knowledge and the power it creates to wield yourself a key, a door of opportunity, a car to drive you through, a better financial life – whatever it is that you need to succeed and allow contentment in. No one wants or deserves to live in continuous melancholy, and to be quite frank life is too short. Get out of and away from a life of “stress & mess”. Move up and into bigger and better things, and live for a purpose.

For the things that surround you that are zapping you of your strength, bringing chaos and turmoil into your presence, taking joy in anarchy – tell them to GET OUT. It’s your life, and your responsibility to keep things away from you with mischievous agendas. Don’t ever knowingly let evil slumber in the bed beside you; kick it out. Tell it to go on, and don’t let it destroy your goals and what you’ve worked hard to attain. The mere association with iniquity can crumble you and everything you stand for. You should desire to live unconquered and not under the control of your circumstances, your environment, or your situations. The closer you are to getting out and telling evil to get out, the next step you take to reaching that goal…

Always live unconquered, and pledge to be more than a conqueror. Happy Independence Day

JJR II 

Let A Healing...

Last week I spoke about ushering in a new era in your life, and that to do that, you have to let your past go. What happens sometimes is that we let the past go, forgive others and ourselves, and move forward. Yet, we still feel hollow. More than likely, it’s because you’ve forgotten to let a healing in; not uncovering your wounds so they can get air and heal. Remember that you can only keep band-aids and bandages over a deep wound so long; it needs to be exposed to sunlight and air to properly heal over. Deep wounds do tend to leave a scar regardless, but you’re in a better place if you have a blemish than a wound that is continually reopened in your life. 

Letting a healing occur isn’t always easy, and everyone has different methods of completing this process. Sometimes conversing with someone you trust (and who is trustworthy) helps, whereas some individuals have to seek out counseling. Some of us can heal ourselves as we take a step back and soul search, whereas some need to introvert themselves to recover. Do whatever you need to do, but open your mind and let yourself recover. You can only be the victim of your circumstance for so long, and in this era there isn’t much empathy from others to go around. Always ask yourself – what problem or circumstance has the empathy from others ever conquered?

If you don’t allow a healing – whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional – your “scars” can slowly create permanent and lasting damage in your life. Your circumstance and situation can continue to stagnant and then deteriorate, until you find yourself in a place that you don’t know how to escape. Letting “scars” fester and not heal can pull you into depression, create addictions, and perpetuate bad habits. “Scars” in life are almost as “potholes” in your foundation. Leave them unattended and they can spread, start spreading cracks through your whole foundation, and ultimately lead to your destruction. You cannot not allow that to happen; let a healing happen…

The theme remains the same, be sure that you’re in a positive environment. You will heal much faster when you are in conditions conducive for growth. Don’t get in the mindset of thinking you’re broken beyond repair, because you aren’t. This mindset can lead you to settling for less than you deserve; it’s not selfish to desire the best for yourself no matter your circumstance or situation. Keep the faith, keep pressing forward, open yourself up to be healed, and then be sure to let a healing begin for you immediately…

6/20/11

JJR II